Is your relationship unsatisfying, and wondering when should you breakup with someone? Or are you just curious and want to equip yourself if the time comes? Regardless of how deeply you love your partner, occasionally, you wonder if the relationship is a good fit. Breaking up with someone you love takes a huge toll on your emotional and mental state.
There are some signs that your relationship has run its course. Read on to learn more about signs you should breakup and what to do if things seem salvageable.
Part 1: Signs It Might Be Time to Break Up
If you lack emotions, excitement, or joy for your significant other or your partner is distant, it is a bad sign for your relationship. When love becomes questionable, we find it difficult to steer our way out of the storm, notes Faizan from AstroInner. Also, if you’re regularly splitting and coming back together, none of you wants to address the deep and vague issues you’re facing.
Have you felt a rift between you two, making it increasingly difficult to communicate or share your likes or interests? Feeling disconnected or when your major values are not aligned may mean your relationship no longer serves its purpose. You’ll know things have cooled off when you no longer have the motivation to reconnect.
Part 2: When to Stick It Out: Signs the Relationship Can Be Saved
Stick around when they need space. Just like you’d want to have space, they are trying to get acquainted with their best selves. Passion dies from time to time as a normal couple. Thus, you can always try different ways to spice things up and keep the fire burning. Also, if you look forward to a future together, it’s a sign your troubles are time-limited and solvable.
Even if you’re the best of lovers, you’ll have a rough patch. So, don’t just call it quits if it’s a compromise you can live with, especially if it’s a conflict of preference, like the restaurant you frequent. If your lover doesn’t share your preference for something but still wants to be with you, hold on as hard as you can, or else the dance falls apart.
Part 3: Assessing the Relationship: Key Questions to Ask Yourself
Indecision is still a decision. Still, you have to ask yourself some questions as you consider whether the relationship is a good fit. Some of them include;
- Are there significant red flags? If you’re aware of major red flags like streaks of abuse, drug and alcohol abuse, or violence, you might want to leave sooner rather than later. Otherwise, reach out for support if they need help.
- Do you still have feelings for each other? When love becomes questionable, you have likely lost a grip on the relationship. Assess your relationship and see if there’s some spark you can rekindle.
- Can you have a normal conversation with each other? Check to see if it has become increasingly difficult to communicate or enjoy your likes like before. If you feel disconnected, it may mean you no longer want to hold on.
- How’s our sex life? Sex plays a huge role in our relationships, and there should be some desire for each other for your relationship to survive. If you’re avoiding even touching each other, it’s not a good sign.
- How will the breakup affect my living arrangements and finances? Give yourself time to think about the practical aspects of a relationship, including your finances and shelter.
Part 4: Red Flags That Warrant Breaking Up
Physical or emotional abuse is a major red flag that warrants a breakup. Any abuse, physical or mental, is a clear sign the relationship has become toxic, and it’s probably best to leave. Your partner shouldn’t attack, frighten, control, or isolate you. Also, if you fight non-stop, unresolved conflicts can turn disrespectful and demeaning over time, affecting your emotional well-being.
If your major values are not aligned, it’s a cause for alarm. When you’re not on the same page with your partner regarding big-picture things, such as settling down and starting a family, it’s a clear indicator that things are on the brink of falling out. Also, if you find yourself doing all the sacrificing or can’t trust them, you might not be the best fit for each other.
Part 5: When to Stick It Out and Work Through Problems
One breakup isn’t too much to heal, as any AstroInner love expert would tell you. So, if you get back together after one breakup, there’s still potential in your relationship. Addressing issues with sincere and open dialogue breeds understanding and improvement in your relationship.
Your relationship can also be saved if you reflect on what brought you together and prioritize each other to reestablish a connection. Additionally, assess whether both of you are willing to forgive past mistakes and work towards a healthier relationship dynamic.
Part 6: Making the Final Decision
Don’t delay. Once you’ve established that the relationship is unhealthy and unsatisfying, it’s enough reason to breakup. Being clear about your intentions to end the relationship serves in everyone’s interests. Prepare for various reactions, but stand your ground and exercise respect.
If you’re the one on the receiving end, it’s best to accept your partner’s wishes. You might disagree with their reasons for a breakup, but don’t oppose the breakup itself. Also, that means severing the connection in every area of your life, including social media or mutual friends.
Part 7: Breaking Up with Compassion and Respect
When it’s time to break up, always do it in person and never do it in public. Let everyone hear what the other person has to say. Do not try to make the other person feel better; it’s not your job to help them cope or comfort them, and it will only make them resent you more.
Own the breakup by listening to anything they might want to say and answering any lingering questions. Avoid saying anything hurtful to demoralize them or blaming them for the breakup. In addition, prepare for the reaction, such as tears or breaking of dishes, but don’t stay.
Part 8: Final Thoughts: Balancing Head and Heart
Ending a relationship is a complex and emotional journey. Regardless, you need to keep your head in the game. Talking things out can help clear stress and make you feel better. Plus, refrain from seeing or speaking with each other, as this can mess up your head with what-if thoughts.
Emotions are healthy and normal. So, allow yourself to grieve and give yourself time to heal. Don’t feel scared to express your feelings of anger, sadness, or disappointment. If you’re having a hard time, consider seeing a counselor or spiritual guide to help you process your emotions.
