The sad truth is that breakups happen, and according to statistics, 30% of individuals get back with their ex. But only half of the 30% gets to keep them. Do you want to be part of the half and rekindle the relationship? Regardless of the breakup reason, following this article’s tips should help you communicate your desires and needs with your ex and sweep them off their feet.
Reflect on Why the Relationship Ended
Without playing the blame game, remember who or what might have caused the breakup. Revisiting your relationship history should not be a sob story, as the backstory sets the stage for your new conversation. If you don’t understand why your relationship failed at first, history will repeat itself, suggests AstroInner love and psychic expert Holden.
If you’re a guy and fell into the nice guy syndrome, making her loathe you, it’s best to cultivate more alpha traits and adopt a leadership role in your life if you’re to win your ex back. Otherwise, getting back with an ex requires deeper internal work and personal improvement to get to the root cause of your falling out in the first place.
Focus on Personal Growth and Self-Improvement
The best way to win your ex back is by doing nothing. Rather, take action and do things deemed attractive and get them missing you again. Invest in self-improvement, such as social life, to create new memories and friends. Get a life since you now have all the time for yourself compared to when it was about the relationship.
Start working on that project or side hustle you’ve always wanted to pursue. Join a gym, read books, get more involved in your community, or hop on a plane and visit some places on your bucket list. Genuinely make an effort to improve yourself, and when they see the changes happening in your life, they’ll want to be a part of your life again.
Re-establish Contact Thoughtfully
No contact is crucial to getting her back and healing from the experience. Once the no-contact period is over, usually a few months, and you’ve put in the work, contact them by simply sending a text. Tell them how you drove past your favorite restaurant and thought of them. It might take hours, days, or weeks before they respond, but they will.
When she responds, keep your interactions positive, light-hearted, and short. Afterward, express genuine interest in her life and make it clear you want to reconnect but in a friendly way and take it from there. Getting your ex back doesn’t involve hurling insults and frustrations. Instead, you should contact them and handle any disagreements in a thoughtful and mature manner.
Rebuild Trust and Emotional Connection
My hope is cheating was not the main reason for breaking up because it’s going to take long before you establish trust with your significant other. Nonetheless, with most relationship problems, the person just wants to be heard, understood, and empathized with, to believe that you care and can be trusted to be present.
Be dependable so they can trust you. To get an ex back, slowly start as friends as you try to establish the emotional bond that was there before. It’s your second chance to learn more about them and create an environment where you want to be with each other. Open and transparent communication is important if you want to turn those red flags into green.
Reassess the Relationship Dynamics
Take a thorough analysis and check if your relationship mishaps are fixable and if your core principles truly match. Sometimes, you really are not a match and have irreconcilable differences, says Holden. Maybe she wants to settle down and enjoy a quiet life with family, and all you want is to travel to big cities and avoid anything that ties you down.
If you want to get back with your ex, communicate your change in needs to your partner so you both have a fair opportunity to judge the situation and make each other happy. If your values align, it’s a good sign things might work out. Whether you like it or not, you’ll have to have a serious conversation and discuss the old issues objectively.
Take It Slow and Be Patient
As you begin your reunion tour, there is no need to go full steam ahead. I know emotions are high, and may want to start the level of intimacy where you left off. But Holden says it’s wise to slow down and take a beat before you put a label on things again. If there is a chance you can rekindle the relationship, it’s better to start from scratch.
Speaking on the subject, both partners should agree not to repeat the same mistakes. Use dates and outings to gauge how you feel about each other and think about your future relationship on a deeper level. Once your ex is not the focal point of your life, you can have the conversation and discuss dating again.
Maintain Long-Term Relationship Health
You have a new relationship, and like any other, you need to communicate honestly for it to last. It’s not the time to hold back; share how you feel and understand your partner’s perspective. Start taking responsibility for your actions and decisions. Don’t leave room for misunderstanding, and show them how dependable and reliable you are now.
Avoid reminiscing and talking about the past. Instead, create fun and positive vibes and focus on connecting in the present. If the relationship is going to last, practice healthy habits like forgiveness, mindfulness, and patience, and let go of bad ones like ignorance. Remind them what made you two compatible and mention instances that make the relationship worth saving.
Know When to Walk Away
If your relationship didn’t work, there were serious underlying issues that needed to be solved. If most of the concerns are unsolvable and you two get back together, you’re setting yourself up for yet another heartbreak. Your inner circle might try to sway your decision, but look out for such and stand firm in your decision.
Also, over time, we learn new things about ourselves and create different perspectives about our lives and preferences. Ask yourself, can you see an attainable future with them knowing what you know now, and are you sure your future needs will be met? Stop looking at your ex to find happiness or feel complete. Learn to find happiness in your own company.
Conclusion
One advantage of getting back together with your ex is that you both know each other’s haves and have-nots. Either way, it’s crucial to undertake genuine self-improvement and enter the new relationship with trust, respect, and understanding of your ex’s feelings and boundaries. Also, don’t let go of the fact that there’s always a chance your ex will get over you and fall in love with someone else. Get your tarot reading with AstroInner.
