The demise of a relationship can put you on a roller coaster of complex, hard-to-handle emotions. At this point, everything seems so unbearably awful right now. The truth is that post-breakup blues won’t disappear overnight, and you’ll need to take steps to heal from a relationship and establish boundaries between you and your ex. Read on to learn how to feel better after a breakup.
Allow Yourself to Grieve
Broken hearts are earnest as breakups hit hard emotionally, and healing after a breakup takes longer than you realize. Friends and family might encourage you to get over a heartbreak, but take the time to grieve your relationship and get through a breakup. It’s natural to grieve a severed bond of love and a familiar routine you were used to.
Bottling up your feelings and pretending you aren’t going through an ordeal is a sure way to prolong the pain and slow down the healing process, says Richard, an AstroInner physic expert. But, don’t follow every impulse like setting their car on fire and vandalizing their homes; that will be psychotic. Instead, live through the emotions, cry, and scream it all out.
Lean on Your Support System
There’s no use in fighting the pain away on your own. Feel free to rant your worries away on a night out with your closest friends. Seek advice from close family friends like your brother, mom, cousin, or dad on how they managed such an ordeal. Verbally reflecting on your relationship brings you closure and reduces the healing process.
Stories from people, like a professional therapist, psychic expert, or loved one, with a similar experience can help you relate to that experience and offer emotional comfort. Also, talking with your spiritual guide can calm your emotional outbursts and help you meditate. Special people in your life can help you feel understood, less alone, and more hopeful about everything.
Focus on Self-Care
It’s possible you might have ignored self-care while engrossed in the coupledom. Fortunately or unfortunately, it’s now time to revive your artistic or singing skills. Instead of using this time to drown yourself in alcohol, reframe this period as an opportunity to reignite your personal passions and talent.
Other self-care strategies you can try include guitar sessions, decorating a room in your house, writing poetry, or aromatherapy. Indulging in mindfulness activities or pampering yourself with a new outfit or the latest gadget can be a mood booster. Clairvoyant healer Richard recommends focusing on gratitude practices as they can help one live in the present.
Create New Routines
Forego the familiar restaurant or pizza joint you used to frequent. Or, better yet, you can invite a group of friends to join you in the restaurant and create new memories, giving you some sense of control. Either way, mix up your routine and explore new spots, like a new sports bar, to slowly build your independent life without this person.
Social media is not really a need. So, why not mute, block, unfollow, or remove them from your X(formerly Twitter) lists and work on your physical and mental well-being with the gym or home workouts? Plan a solo adventure to enjoy the liberty of being single again, like a hike in the mountains or a short getaway in a place your former partner wouldn’t visit.
Pursue Your Interests and Hobbies
Step out of your comfort zone with an old or new hobby to keep the spirit alive. Engaging in things you love, like motorsport racing and kayaking, nurtures your whole self, including mind, body, and spirit. A calm mind is like a fortress around you, where stress and drama can’t get to the other side of the wall.
Richard also recommends creating a daily self-care routine that includes doing something that brings you joy, like bowling, nurtures you, like meditation, and helps you process feelings, like journaling. Take this time to play your favorite sport, including football, tennis, badminton, or volleyball, to help clear your mind off your ex.
Set Boundaries with Your Ex
It’s important to note that you’re no longer a couple, and new rules must be established. Keeping distance means not doing anything like cuddling, spending a night together in the same bed, or providing consistent emotional and financial support. Stick your ground and avoid giving your now ex the impression that it seems like you never broke up.
While there may be room for friendship, it’s important to respect yourself and them and give yourselves some space. Set boundaries, such as not replying to text messages and only talking on the phone at certain times when it’s a pressing issue. Even better, consider using a temporary intermediary, like a mutual friend, to handle the logistics, like moving out.
Reflect on the Relationship
Take a trip down memory lane and think on your relationship to learn and grow. Remember, it’s not just a relationship you’ve lost but also the plans you had for your future with them. Hence, reflect on the good times more and how you’d want the same to happen in your future relationships.
Consider the bad traits as stepping stones and opportunities to grow emotionally, spiritually, and mentally as you look forward to your future. Remind yourself of all the reasons you’re not together to realize you might not have been each other’s perfect match.
Seek Professional Help if Needed
Therapy isn’t necessary for everyone, but a breakup can take an emotional toll on you, leading to stress and depression. Trusted friends and family can be a pillar of hope and support, but sometimes, they are not enough. Consider help from a professional counselor, psychic expert from AstroInner, or therapist to help you with;
- Identifying the best coping methods for such emotions
- Offering a safe space to express yourself without being judged
- Gaining self-awareness necessary for forming healthy and lasting relationships
- Reframe negative thoughts into positive ones
- Deal with the effects of abuse and manipulation as you work on a plan for the future
Seek help ASAP if you’re struggling with eating, sleeping, work, or mood or personality changes.
